To remain inwardly free in every situation, you need technique. You develop this through training and practice. In addition to a proper spiritual attitude, technique is essential to ‘run free’ inwardly and to stay that way.<\/span> [\/et_pb_text][et_pb_divider show_divider=”off” admin_label=”DIVIDER 20D20T15M” _builder_version=”4.25.0″ height=”20px” height_tablet=”20px” height_phone=”15px” height_last_edited=”on|desktop” hide_on_mobile=”off” locked=”off” global_colors_info=”{}”][\/et_pb_divider][et_pb_text admin_label=”Ik zie jou” _builder_version=”4.27.9″ background_color=”#faeede” background_size=”initial” background_position=”top_left” background_repeat=”repeat” custom_margin=”|20px||20px” custom_padding=”3%|3%|3%|3%” border_width_all=”3px” border_color_all=”#dcb385″ use_border_color=”on” saved_tabs=”advanced,css” locked=”off” global_colors_info=”{}”]<\/p>\n Every unknown<\/em> person you encounter, you perceive awake. You remember ‘I see you’.<\/p>\n While doing this, you let them know in one way or another that you see \/ experience that person. You also notice whether this is appreciated by the other person or not. If not, you stop doing it, but you remain ‘present’ with the person. The goal of this exercise is for you yourself to enter and remain awake in self-reflection at that moment.<\/p>\n [\/et_pb_text][et_pb_text admin_label=”witegel” _builder_version=”4.16″ background_size=”initial” background_position=”top_left” background_repeat=”repeat” custom_padding=”3%|3%|3%|3%” use_border_color=”off” border_color=”#000000″ border_style=”solid” locked=”off” global_colors_info=”{}”][\/et_pb_text][et_pb_text admin_label=”Wie ben jij?” _builder_version=”4.27.9″ background_color=”#faeede” background_size=”initial” background_position=”top_left” background_repeat=”repeat” custom_margin=”|20px||20px” custom_padding=”3%|3%|3%|3%” border_width_all=”3px” border_color_all=”#dcb385″ use_border_color=”on” saved_tabs=”advanced,css” locked=”off” global_colors_info=”{}”]<\/p>\n Every known<\/em> person you encounter, you perceive awake. A certain degree of bias, especially with family and friends, is very normal and serves a function. Yet, because of this, we can become ‘blind’ to previously unexperienced traits and qualities. After all, any form of ‘framing’ easily keeps us out of a self-reflective perception.<\/p>\n The goal of this exercise is for you yourself to enter and remain awake in self-reflection during communication with acquaintances.<\/p>\n Aphorism: [\/et_pb_text][et_pb_text admin_label=”witegel” _builder_version=”4.16″ background_size=”initial” background_position=”top_left” background_repeat=”repeat” custom_padding=”3%|3%|3%|3%” use_border_color=”off” border_color=”#000000″ border_style=”solid” global_colors_info=”{}”][\/et_pb_text][et_pb_text admin_label=”Vind het derde punt” _builder_version=”4.27.9″ background_color=”#faeede” background_size=”initial” background_position=”top_left” background_repeat=”repeat” custom_margin=”|20px||20px” custom_padding=”3%|3%|3%|3%” border_width_all=”3px” border_color_all=”#dcb385″ use_border_color=”on” saved_tabs=”advanced,css” locked=”off” global_colors_info=”{}”]<\/p>\n \u201cFind the third point, and duality dissolves\u201d<\/em> is an important aphorism.<\/p>\n Every (apparent) opposition has a \u2018third point\u2019 that nullifies that opposition. Seeing the third point means breaking away from our dualistic perception of any contrast. Essentially, the third point creates unity within opposition. In self-reflection, also find third points in things that make you feel unhappy and see that this helps you to remain awake and thus with yourself. [\/et_pb_text][et_pb_text admin_label=”witegel” _builder_version=”4.16″ background_size=”initial” background_position=”top_left” background_repeat=”repeat” custom_padding=”3%|3%|3%|3%” use_border_color=”off” border_color=”#000000″ border_style=”solid” locked=”off” global_colors_info=”{}”][\/et_pb_text][et_pb_text admin_label=”Stop multitasking” _builder_version=”4.27.9″ background_color=”#faeede” background_size=”initial” background_position=”top_left” background_repeat=”repeat” custom_margin=”|20px||20px” custom_padding=”3%|3%|3%|3%” border_width_all=”3px” border_color_all=”#dcb385″ use_border_color=”on” saved_tabs=”advanced,css” locked=”off” global_colors_info=”{}”]<\/p>\n In realizing self-remembrance, being able to have one-pointed attention is crucial. A good example of attention on the working plane is this: you are walking up or down a staircase with a tray full of filled wine glasses. The working plane is located where something is happening: the feet that walk the steps. Therefore, the point of attention is not, or only very partially, the tray. You walk the stairs with full attention, yet without influencing the intelligence of your Moving Center. This is only possible with a conscious quiet mind. As soon as thinking starts to interfere, walking the stairs might even become more unstable. Having attention on the working plane therefore does not<\/em> mean that you start to ‘interfere’ with it in an improper way.<\/p>\n Stopping multitasking is not easy in this day and age where attention is competed for and we are conditioned to do multiple things simultaneously. It is one of the most difficult exercises to perform purely. Therefore, practice this exercise first during simple tasks. But once you get used to this, everything you do gains more quality and you waste less subtle energy.<\/p>\n [\/et_pb_text][et_pb_text admin_label=”witegel” _builder_version=”4.16″ background_size=”initial” background_position=”top_left” background_repeat=”repeat” custom_padding=”3%|3%|3%|3%” use_border_color=”off” border_color=”#000000″ border_style=”solid” locked=”off” global_colors_info=”{}”][\/et_pb_text][et_pb_text admin_label=”Luister naar je eigen stem” _builder_version=”4.27.9″ background_color=”#faeede” background_size=”initial” background_position=”top_left” background_repeat=”repeat” custom_margin=”|20px||20px” custom_padding=”3%|3%|3%|3%” border_width_all=”3px” border_color_all=”#dcb385″ use_border_color=”on” saved_tabs=”advanced,css” locked=”off” global_colors_info=”{}”] Listening to your own voice while you are in conversation with someone helps you to remain in self-remembrance.<\/p>\n You perceive the sound of your own voice in the same way that you can perceive the sound of the other person. The sound of your voice contains a lot of information, for example about your feelings, but also whether you are speaking from identifications. [\/et_pb_text][et_pb_text admin_label=”witegel” _builder_version=”4.16″ background_size=”initial” background_position=”top_left” background_repeat=”repeat” custom_padding=”3%|3%|3%|3%” use_border_color=”off” border_color=”#000000″ border_style=”solid” locked=”off” global_colors_info=”{}”][\/et_pb_text][et_pb_text admin_label=”Spreek vanuit ‘ik'” _builder_version=”4.27.9″ background_color=”#faeede” background_size=”initial” background_position=”top_left” background_repeat=”repeat” custom_margin=”|20px||20px” custom_padding=”3%|3%|3%|3%” border_width_all=”3px” border_color_all=”#dcb385″ use_border_color=”on” saved_tabs=”advanced,css” locked=”off” global_colors_info=”{}”] Always speak with others in the first person (‘I’) when you talk about what you have experienced.<\/p>\n Nowadays it is very common to speak in the second person (‘you’). By doing this, we objectify what we are telling in a wrong way. You place yourself outside the description of what you have experienced, resulting in less self-reflection.<\/p>\n Using the second person is therefore counterproductive to your goal of being in self-remembrance. [\/et_pb_text][et_pb_text admin_label=”witegel” _builder_version=”4.16″ background_size=”initial” background_position=”top_left” background_repeat=”repeat” custom_padding=”3%|3%|3%|3%” use_border_color=”off” border_color=”#000000″ border_style=”solid” locked=”off” global_colors_info=”{}”][\/et_pb_text][et_pb_text admin_label=”Stop simpele associaties” _builder_version=”4.27.9″ background_color=”#faeede” background_size=”initial” background_position=”top_left” background_repeat=”repeat” custom_margin=”|20px||20px” custom_padding=”3%|3%|3%|3%” border_width_all=”3px” border_color_all=”#dcb385″ use_border_color=”on” saved_tabs=”advanced,css” locked=”off” global_colors_info=”{}”] Associating is one of the qualities of Manas that is highly useful to us, because when functional, association offers us intelligent creativity in countless areas. Simple associations are easy to recognize in others: you tell someone something and that other person effortlessly interrupts your story with a story of their own, because what you are telling reminds them of it. “Oh yes, I know that…” and subsequently you are forced to hear that association. People are never aware of this mechanism, and interest in what you wanted to tell has usually completely vanished.<\/p>\n Simple associations keep you unconscious and out of self-remembrance. You must stop this mechanicalness in your mind immediately as soon as you notice it. Never go along with it!<\/p>\n Simple associations also play out in your thinking when no one else is involved. They are conditioned associations that stand in the way of clear, unbiased thinking in the Now, for example when pondering a problem. Notice them, evaluate them in awake self-reflection, and stop them if you see that they bring you into a state of ‘circling thoughts’ and daydreaming that isolates you from reality.<\/p>\n [\/et_pb_text][et_pb_text admin_label=”witegel” _builder_version=”4.16″ background_size=”initial” background_position=”top_left” background_repeat=”repeat” custom_padding=”3%|3%|3%|3%” use_border_color=”off” border_color=”#000000″ border_style=”solid” locked=”off” global_colors_info=”{}”][\/et_pb_text][et_pb_text admin_label=”Stop discussies” _builder_version=”4.27.9″ background_color=”#faeede” background_size=”initial” background_position=”top_left” background_repeat=”repeat” custom_margin=”|20px||20px” custom_padding=”3%|3%|3%|3%” border_width_all=”3px” border_color_all=”#dcb385″ use_border_color=”on” saved_tabs=”advanced,css” locked=”off” global_colors_info=”{}”]<\/p>\n Do not waste energy on verbal battles, they mean nothing. Etymologically, the word discussion<\/em> originates from the Latin discussere<\/em> (to investigate, to smash apart – composed of dis-<\/em> (apart) and quatere<\/em> (to strike\/shake). Originally aimed at ‘shaking apart’ a subject to get to the heart of the matter. A reasoned exchange of thoughts, in other words. Today, however, it is more of a battle to ‘win’ than a difference of opinion.<\/p>\n A good way to prevent a pointless discussion is paraphrasing. Once the other person has spoken – and before you speak again – you first repeat in your own words what they have said. Next, you juxtapose something against this, which sheds light on your vision of the subject. Furthermore, you use the first-person (‘I’) standpoint as little as possible. a statement like “I don’t agree with that!”<\/em> is a prime example. Such an exclamation is pointless and forces the other person into a foxhole. It fuels polarity. Much better is: “Okay, so you are saying…”<\/em> (and so on in your own words), after which you explain what matters to you without using ‘I think’<\/em>. [\/et_pb_text][et_pb_text admin_label=”witegel” _builder_version=”4.16″ background_size=”initial” background_position=”top_left” background_repeat=”repeat” custom_padding=”3%|3%|3%|3%” use_border_color=”off” border_color=”#000000″ border_style=”solid” locked=”off” global_colors_info=”{}”][\/et_pb_text][et_pb_text admin_label=”Is dat zo?” _builder_version=”4.27.9″ background_color=”#faeede” background_size=”initial” background_position=”top_left” background_repeat=”repeat” custom_margin=”|20px||20px” custom_padding=”3%|3%|3%|3%” border_width_all=”3px” border_color_all=”#dcb385″ use_border_color=”on” saved_tabs=”advanced,css” locked=”off” global_colors_info=”{}”]<\/p>\n A young monk devoted his simple life to meditation. He was respected and people gladly sought him out for advice and blessings. But one day a girl became pregnant and she claimed the monk was the father. The village was shocked and angry and people accused him of his misdeed. The monk remained calm and unperturbed amid all the commotion. His only response to the accusations made against him was \u201cIs that so?\u201d Just like that monk, ask yourself the question “Is that so?” in every situation where you encounter prejudices or assumptions. This helps you to avoid automatically jumping to your defense and to remain free from framing and negative feelings. Insults and compliments are two sides of the same coin. Both sides are food for our ego.<\/p>\n Read the anecdote about the monk here<\/a><\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n<\/p>\n [\/et_pb_text][et_pb_text admin_label=”witegel” _builder_version=”4.16″ background_size=”initial” background_position=”top_left” background_repeat=”repeat” custom_padding=”3%|3%|3%|3%” use_border_color=”off” border_color=”#000000″ border_style=”solid” locked=”off” global_colors_info=”{}”][\/et_pb_text][et_pb_text admin_label=”Stop onophoudelijk gepraat” _builder_version=”4.27.9″ background_color=”#faeede” background_size=”initial” background_position=”top_left” background_repeat=”repeat” custom_margin=”|20px||20px” custom_padding=”3%|3%|3%|3%” border_width_all=”3px” border_color_all=”#dcb385″ use_border_color=”on” saved_tabs=”advanced,css” locked=”off” global_colors_info=”{}”] You generally see yourself as a kind of \u2018biography\u2019, a narrative about yourself that is continuously built up and perpetuated by experiences, perceptions, feelings, thoughts, and actions. In short: all these things are reinforced by what you say, by bringing them into alignment through talking and talking again.<\/p>\n A person does this in order to be \u2018someone\u2019<\/em>, to mean something in one way or another. Some people are therefore inclined to constantly ventilate this \u2018biography\u2019 or ‘script’ in the presence of others to anyone who will hear it, often caused by personal suffering: a repetition (born out of fear and uncertainty) and confirmation of that own story<\/em><\/span><\/span>, which can be called pathological, making the silent experience of an uncolored Now increasingly difficult.<\/p>\n Even from a place of positivity, there is incessant talking about what one knows, what one thinks, or what one has experienced. Acquired knowledge is repeatedly ventilated to anyone who will listen. Jokers, for example, tell the same jokes and wisecracks over and over again to be seen as a lighthearted and fun person. [\/et_pb_text][et_pb_text admin_label=”witegel” _builder_version=”4.16″ background_size=”initial” background_position=”top_left” background_repeat=”repeat” custom_padding=”3%|3%|3%|3%” use_border_color=”off” border_color=”#000000″ border_style=”solid” locked=”off” global_colors_info=”{}”][\/et_pb_text][et_pb_text admin_label=”Gebruik geen gemeenplaatsen” _builder_version=”4.27.9″ background_color=”#faeede” background_size=”initial” background_position=”top_left” background_repeat=”repeat” custom_margin=”|20px||20px” custom_padding=”3%|3%|3%|3%” hover_enabled=”0″ border_width_all=”3px” border_color_all=”#dcb385″ use_border_color=”on” saved_tabs=”advanced,css” locked=”off” global_colors_info=”{}” sticky_enabled=”0″]<\/p>\n Our use of language is heavily influenced by trends. The way people speak in society changes over the years. As a result, we often adopt clich\u00e9s and use them without realizing it. These are words and expressions whose original power or intention has been lost. They often sound trite or have turned into conversation stoppers, filler words, and platitudes. And just as quickly as they appear, they also disappear again. Take, for instance, the frequently used greeting, \u201cAll good?\u201d. This is virtually impossible to answer honestly. A standard response like \u201cCouldn’t be better\u201d sounds polite, but is rarely sincere. Other common examples are words like \u201cactually\u201d, \u201cjust\u201d, and \u201cso to speak\u201d, which are pasted into sentences without reflection. The word \u2018challenge\u2019 is often used instead of \u2018problem\u2019. This euphemism seems softening, but suppresses the feeling that goes with it. Recognizing and avoiding these clich\u00e9s helps you communicate more consciously and powerfully. By keeping them out of conversations, more insight, engagement, and self-reflection arise. This in turn leads to clearer and more direct communication, strengthening both your eloquence and your connection with others. This clarity is rare in daily exchanges between people. Let’s change that!<\/p>\n Read a number of examples of clich\u00e9s and buzzwords here<\/strong><\/a><\/p>\n [\/et_pb_text][et_pb_text admin_label=”witegel” _builder_version=”4.16″ background_size=”initial” background_position=”top_left” background_repeat=”repeat” custom_padding=”3%|3%|3%|3%” use_border_color=”off” border_color=”#000000″ border_style=”solid” locked=”off” global_colors_info=”{}”][\/et_pb_text][et_pb_text admin_label=”Stop kritiek” _builder_version=”4.27.9″ background_color=”#faeede” background_size=”initial” background_position=”top_left” background_repeat=”repeat” custom_margin=”|20px||20px” custom_padding=”3%|3%|3%|3%” border_width_all=”3px” border_color_all=”#dcb385″ use_border_color=”on” saved_tabs=”advanced,css” locked=”off” global_colors_info=”{}”]<\/p>\n Criticism and negative feelings are a reaction to people, situations, and events that are different from how we want them to be. Criticism stands in the way of empathy, insight, and true understanding of what we are criticizing. Negative feelings are triggered by something, and you can investigate that so you can come to understand their true cause. Then real insight arises, judgments and projections come to an end, and you liberate yourself from discontent and suffering. Dwelling on it afterward is also prevented by this. Also stop having self-criticism: that is the inner booing<\/em> when you are not satisfied with yourself, for whatever reason. It is the equivalent of inner applause<\/em> when you are pleased with yourself. You must stop that too, of course, because both are ego-confirming. Inner applause and booing<\/em> form both sides of the coin of the ego, which is aimed at reinforcing itself.<\/p>\n [\/et_pb_text][et_pb_text admin_label=”witegel” _builder_version=”4.16″ background_size=”initial” background_position=”top_left” background_repeat=”repeat” custom_padding=”3%|3%|3%|3%” use_border_color=”off” border_color=”#000000″ border_style=”solid” locked=”off” global_colors_info=”{}”][\/et_pb_text][et_pb_text admin_label=”Stop met je te ergeren” _builder_version=”4.27.9″ background_color=”#faeede” background_size=”initial” background_position=”top_left” background_repeat=”repeat” custom_margin=”|20px||20px” custom_padding=”3%|3%|3%|3%” border_width_all=”3px” border_color_all=”#dcb385″ use_border_color=”on” saved_tabs=”advanced,css” locked=”off” global_colors_info=”{}”]<\/p>\n \u200bIf you (linguistically) \u2018do something to yourself\u2019, reflexively that is, you can also choose not to. For example \u2018you annoy yourself\u2019 (je ergert je), in which one \u2018you\u2019 is the subject and the other \u2018you\u2019 is the reflexive pronoun, in other words the direct object. From this you can see that you are doing this entirely to yourself. So you are doing something to yourself: annoyance. However, we often tend to place the blame for annoyance, for example, on someone else. Unjustly so, because we do this ourselves. We ourselves are the cause of such discomfort. No one else is responsible for that. You cannot shift this unpleasant feeling onto another person. So be alert to reflexive verbs and ask yourself: Is this useful to me? Or – again reflexively – am I burdening myself? In the latter case, you can do something about it yourself and no longer blame others for it. This way we remain in inner peace and prevent a lot of hassle.<\/p>\n Fortunately, there are also examples in which you do something \u2018good\u2019 to yourself, such as \u2018to wonder\u2019, \u2018to rejoice\u2019, \u2018to empathize\u2019 and \u2018to restrain yourself\u2019. If you excuse yourself, that is not wrong either, for instance for your own annoyance.<\/p>\n [\/et_pb_text][et_pb_text admin_label=”witegel” _builder_version=”4.16″ background_size=”initial” background_position=”top_left” background_repeat=”repeat” custom_padding=”3%|3%|3%|3%” use_border_color=”off” border_color=”#000000″ border_style=”solid” locked=”off” global_colors_info=”{}”][\/et_pb_text][et_pb_text admin_label=”Stop innerlijke dialogen” _builder_version=”4.27.9″ background_color=”#faeede” background_size=”initial” background_position=”top_left” background_repeat=”repeat” custom_margin=”|20px||20px” custom_padding=”3%|3%|3%|3%” border_width_all=”3px” border_color_all=”#dcb385″ use_border_color=”on” saved_tabs=”advanced,css” locked=”off” global_colors_info=”{}”]<\/p>\n When we feel unacknowledged or misunderstood in communication with others, or are even strongly contradicted, we often tend to replay the conversation in our head later on. Multiple times, even. Suddenly, strong arguments do come to mind, or we mentally deliver a sharp retort that we did not dare to give at the moment itself. This can wind us up to such an extent that it disrupts our inner peace. In these repetitions, we agitate ourselves in an attempt to restore a mental comfort zone.<\/p>\n Our true comfort zone lies precisely outside all that inner turmoil. Therefore, stop these inner conversations immediately as soon as you notice you are getting caught up in them. Return to the Now, where you find peace and have the space to consider how you could be heard and acknowledged in the future. [\/et_pb_text][et_pb_text admin_label=”witegel” _builder_version=”4.16″ background_size=”initial” background_position=”top_left” background_repeat=”repeat” custom_padding=”3%|3%|3%|3%” use_border_color=”off” border_color=”#000000″ border_style=”solid” locked=”off” global_colors_info=”{}”][\/et_pb_text][et_pb_text admin_label=”Kom te vrede” _builder_version=”4.27.9″ background_color=”#faeede” background_size=”initial” background_position=”top_left” background_repeat=”repeat” custom_margin=”|20px||20px” custom_padding=”3%|3%|3%|3%” border_width_all=”3px” border_color_all=”#dcb385″ use_border_color=”on” saved_tabs=”advanced,css” locked=”off” global_colors_info=”{}”]<\/p>\n To remain inwardly at peace in every situation we encounter, we need insight and technique. Practice is required to maintain inner freedom. When facing opposition, a peaceful mindset alone is insufficient to prevent automatic, non-peaceful reactions, causing us to lose our desired tolerance. Awareness and training in peaceful freedom are essential regardless of external circumstances.<\/p>\n Seven levels of inner peace are attainable through effort, as holiness is not given automatically. Conditioning and unconscious identification with obstructive thought mechanisms block natural peace. These patterns can be transcended through conscious relaxation and dedicated surrender to the present moment.<\/p>\n Helpful affirmations include: Remember the words of Francis of Assisi: “Give me the courage to change what I can change. Give me the wisdom to accept what I cannot change. Give me the insight to see the difference between the two”<\/em><\/p>\n Read here about the seven levels of peace<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n [\/et_pb_text][et_pb_text admin_label=”witegel” _builder_version=”4.16″ background_size=”initial” background_position=”top_left” background_repeat=”repeat” custom_padding=”3%|3%|3%|3%” use_border_color=”off” border_color=”#000000″ border_style=”solid” locked=”off” global_colors_info=”{}”][\/et_pb_text][et_pb_text admin_label=”Stilvallen” _builder_version=”4.27.9″ background_color=”#faeede” background_size=”initial” background_position=”top_left” background_repeat=”repeat” custom_margin=”|20px||20px” custom_padding=”3%|3%|3%|3%” border_width_all=”3px” border_color_all=”#dcb385″ use_border_color=”on” saved_tabs=”advanced,css” locked=”off” global_colors_info=”{}”] Sit down comfortably with your feet on the floor and do this exercise for about a minute and a half between all activities, meaning when you have finished one thing and before you start doing something else. Feel how your body sits on the chair. Feel all pressure points. Feel the body as a whole and all the (life) currents within it. Integrate inner and outer feeling. (This can also be done standing up.) Maintain this feeling perception of yourself during the following steps (this is important!)<\/p>\n Direct your attention to seeing. Look at one point and, without moving your eyes, see the entire periphery. A ‘broad’ gaze, in other words, and see only shapes and colors without meaning.<\/p>\n Taste the flavor in your mouth. Smell the scent of the atmosphere.<\/p>\n Then focus your attention on listening, while the feeling perception of yourself is maintained. Hear the sounds nearby but also let your listening expand as far out as possible. Hear only sounds and attach no meaning to them.<\/p>\n This is neutral Perceiving, nothing more. In full perception with the five senses, there is no room for interpretations, thoughts, or judgment.<\/p>\n Behind this sensory perception, you now experience an immense silence and space. That Silence, behind all movement and sounds, is always there. That Silence is the ‘space’ in which everything arises and everything disappears.<\/p>\n You now experience the neutral observer as a non-dual state in your mind.<\/p>\n As you apply this exercise more often \u2013 between different activities, thus many times a day \u2013 it can be done in just one or two minutes: you instantly fall still into pure sensory feeling perception, inside and outside yourself, nothing more. In this way, you prevent the energy of the previous action from being carried over into the next, and you realize an emo-mental ‘clean start’.<\/p>\n [\/et_pb_text][et_pb_text admin_label=”witegel” _builder_version=”4.16″ background_size=”initial” background_position=”top_left” background_repeat=”repeat” custom_padding=”3%|3%|3%|3%” use_border_color=”off” border_color=”#000000″ border_style=”solid” locked=”off” global_colors_info=”{}”][\/et_pb_text][et_pb_text admin_label=”Wakker wandelen” _builder_version=”4.27.9″ background_color=”#faeede” background_size=”initial” background_position=”top_left” background_repeat=”repeat” custom_margin=”|20px||20px” custom_padding=”3%|3%|3%|3%” border_width_all=”3px” border_color_all=”#dcb385″ use_border_color=”on” saved_tabs=”advanced,css” locked=”off” global_colors_info=”{}”]<\/p>\n Take a 15-minute walk daily<\/em> in self-reflection.<\/p>\n Realize for the full 10 to 15 minutes \u201cI am walking\u201d, or more accurately: \u201cI perceive my walking body\u201d.<\/p>\n After you have mindfully set yourself to this, expand this awake perception by noticing\/absorbing everything around you and experiencing it with the five senses. The wind, the scents, the colors and images, the sounds, the touch of your feet on the ground, the pressure of your clothes, the temperature, EVERYTHING. Your external perception<\/em> is then as complete as possible.<\/p>\n Expand this awake perception inwardly. In this full awareness, feel your life currents: your breathing, blood circulation, perspiration, fatigue, muscle soreness, fitness, and so on.<\/p>\n While walking with full attention, you may also experience feelings\/emotions (and possibly their location in your body). These also arise, weak or strong. You perceive them, nothing more, you do not go along with any feeling by starting to think about it.<\/p>\n Thoughts also arise. You notice them as part of your inner perception, nothing more, you do not go along with any emerging thought and continue walking in feeling perception, mindful of everything in the environment.<\/p>\n In this clear attention to \u2018everything\u2019, you also perceive your state of mind, which is by no means always equally clear or attentive and certainly not always optimal, without having any judgment about it.<\/p>\n When the external and internal perception go together as completely as possible, we are \u2018walking in an optimal feeling perception of myself in the situation I am in<\/em>.<\/p>\n We experience inside<\/em> and outside<\/em> \u2018myself\u2019 simultaneously. The internal and external perception integrate. Walking in complete self-reflection, in other words.<\/p>\n [\/et_pb_text][et_pb_text admin_label=”witegel” _builder_version=”4.16″ background_size=”initial” background_position=”top_left” background_repeat=”repeat” custom_padding=”3%|3%|3%|3%” use_border_color=”off” border_color=”#000000″ border_style=”solid” locked=”off” global_colors_info=”{}”][\/et_pb_text][et_pb_text admin_label=”Geef het op – draag het op” _builder_version=”4.27.9″ background_color=”#faeede” background_size=”initial” background_position=”top_left” background_repeat=”repeat” custom_margin=”|20px||20px” custom_padding=”3%|3%|3%|3%” border_width_all=”3px” border_color_all=”#dcb385″ use_border_color=”on” saved_tabs=”advanced,css” locked=”off” global_colors_info=”{}”]<\/p>\n An example of an “I-give-up” intention is letting go of judgments about one’s body, focusing on non-doing rather than automatisms by observing thoughts and feelings in silence before surrendering them. By returning these conditioned patterns to the Self, giving up becomes an act of dedication driven by teamwork between Reason and Feeling. This respectful practice fosters liberating detachment, strips away illusions of the ego, and offers a profound sense of inner freedom.<\/p>\n Read the full description of the I-give-up exercise here<\/a><\/p>\n [\/et_pb_text][et_pb_text admin_label=”witegel” _builder_version=”4.16″ background_size=”initial” background_position=”top_left” background_repeat=”repeat” custom_padding=”3%|3%|3%|3%” use_border_color=”off” border_color=”#000000″ border_style=”solid” locked=”off” global_colors_info=”{}”][\/et_pb_text][et_pb_text admin_label=”Sanskriet aforismen” _builder_version=”4.27.9″ background_color=”#faeede” background_size=”initial” background_position=”top_left” background_repeat=”repeat” custom_margin=”|20px||20px” custom_padding=”3%|3%|3%|3%” border_width_all=”3px” border_color_all=”#dcb385″ use_border_color=”on” saved_tabs=”advanced,css” locked=”off” global_colors_info=”{}”]<\/p>\n
\nUsually, spiritual and often theoretical knowledge is not enough to maintain your still inner anchor, especially when life tests you and you end up in unpleasant situations. That is when you might notice you lack the technical experience required to ‘run free’ and remain inwardly free.<\/span>
\nBelow you will find exercises that can help you with this, provided you apply them as often as possible.<\/span>
\nIn addition to well-known exercises such as meditation, mindfulness, and modern yoga, these exercises also belong to what in Vedic philosophy are called <\/span>karma yoga<\/span><\/span> and <\/span>sadhana<\/span><\/span> ..<\/span><\/p>\n<\/h3>\n
Do these exercises as often as you remember them<\/strong><\/span><\/h3>\n
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<\/p>\nI see you<\/strong><\/h4>\n
You do this as subtly as possible – through a glance, a remark, or a small gesture – and the result could be that this person feels seen in some way. They will then experience a sense of connection, because you bring a form of ‘communication’ into being.<\/p>\n<\/p>\nWho are you?<\/strong><\/h4>\n
You ask yourself regarding this person: ‘who are you?’
With this, you can stop any ‘framing’ of this known person at that moment.<\/p>\n
If I accept a person as he is, he will remain as he is.
<\/em>If I treat a person as he can be, he will be able to become who he can be.<\/em><\/span><\/p>\n<\/p>\nFind the third point<\/strong><\/h4>\n
\u200bDo you experience a contradiction? Find the common characteristic<\/em><\/span><\/span> in this opposition.<\/p>\n
Look within diversity for what is equal.
Search within change for what is permanent.
Finding and realizing the third point in (apparent) oppositions ultimately resolves our inner duality.<\/p>\n<\/p>\nStop multitasking<\/strong><\/h4>\n
Most of the time, our attention is ‘scattered’ or even ‘captured’. We do multiple things at once, allow ourselves to be distracted by external triggers, start things and do not finish them, and so on. To get out of this cluttered way of doing things, we direct our full conscious attention to what is called the ‘working plane’. Because attention is one-pointed, this concerns only one activity, and we stop everything else. The ‘working plane’ is the point in our action where something is happening.<\/p>\n<\/p>\nListen to your own voice<\/strong><\/h4>\n
This way you also learn to better interpret the voice and intentions of another person.<\/p>\n<\/p>\nSpeak from ‘I’<\/strong><\/h4>\n
While telling what you have experienced, using the first person will ensure that you allow fewer imaginations, are less likely to lie, and do not make situations more beautiful or uglier than they are or were.<\/p>\n<\/p>\nStop simple associations<\/strong><\/h4>\n
‘Simple associations’, however, must be stopped immediately at all times. These are associations brought forward by Manas<\/em><\/span><\/span>, as if it were a poorly trained dog.<\/p>\n<\/p>\nStop discussions<\/strong><\/h4>\n
It is, of course, good and useful to share visions or to examine them together in order to find the truth. The Socratic dialogue is a good example of this. In it, things may get ‘intense’, playing the ball and not the man, but it should not degenerate into a pointless discussion.<\/p>\n
In this way, you take the sting out of the disagreement on your side.<\/p>\n
Remain friendly and keep looking at the other person.<\/p>\n<\/p>\nIs that so?<\/strong><\/h4>\n
When the truth came to light that he could not be the father, the villagers felt ashamed and guilty about their judgments and anger. They apologized to him and asked for forgiveness. But the monk, still just as calm and unmoved, merely smiled and repeated his familiar words: \u201cIs that so?\u201d<\/p>\n
Even when people say ‘sorry’, thank you, or otherwise compliment you, ask yourself “Is that so?”
This helps you to avoid ending up in your own rightness or self-righteousness and to remain free from ego-identifications.<\/p>\n<\/p>\nStop incessant talking<\/strong><\/h4>\n
To be able to leave all of this behind, there is this simple spiritual exercise: “I stop my incessant talking”<\/em>.
In Self-Remembrance, we can practice proper moderation when it comes to everything we (repeatedly) want to tell others. Silence and self-reflection will begin to predominate. All kinds of other mechanisms of the ego will then also become visible, allowing us to observe and leave them behind.<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/a>Avoid Clich\u00e9s and Trendy Buzzwords<\/strong><\/h4>\n
Such language distances us from ourselves and hinders genuine connection with others. In conversations, it ensures that we are not fully present or that we come across as uninterested. Consequently, interaction remains superficial. Many filler words carry barely any meaning.<\/p>\n
Trendy buzzwords disappear just as fast. By now, phrases like \u201cyou know\u201d and \u201ca bit of\u201d before a noun (such as \u201ca bit of awareness\u201d) have largely faded away.<\/p>\n<\/p>\nStop expressing criticism and negativity<\/strong><\/h4>\n
As soon as negative feelings arise within you, do not express them, and if you have already started and notice it, stop it immediately. Having criticism is something entirely different from being critical. We can always be critical and continue to express ourselves critically, but having criticism based on negative feelings is spiritually counterproductive to our inner development, as it blocks self-remembrance.<\/p>\n
Do not forget that ‘annoying yourself<\/em><\/span><\/span>‘ or ‘making yourself angry’ are reflexive verbs that show you that you are doing this entirely to yourself. Therefore, we should simply let it go.<\/p>\n<\/p>\nStop with harmful reflexivity<\/strong><\/h4>\n
You cannot blame anyone else for such a reflexivity. Important examples of this can be mentioned: you wind yourself up, you hurry yourself, you show off, you feel ashamed, you overexert yourself, and so forth.<\/p>\n<\/p>\nStop inner dialogues<\/strong><\/h4>\n
Stopping inner conversations awakens you instantly and places everything in the right perspective: that of what is truly important to you.<\/p>\n<\/p>\nCome to peace<\/strong><\/h4>\n
“My mind is still and my heart is ‘at peace'”
“Inner rest and peace are my natural state”
“I am more than my experiences, I am That which perceives them”<\/em><\/p>\n<\/p>\nFalling still<\/strong><\/h4>\n
In the beginning, it might take you a little longer, but once you get used to the exercise, it becomes a literal falling still with all senses wide open.<\/p>\n<\/p>\nAwake walking<\/strong><\/h4>\n
<\/p>\nGive it up and dedicate it<\/strong><\/h4>\n